“I just DON’T feel motivated!”

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I'm laughing to myself right now because I know a secret that could change your life. I know it's changed mine.

 

You see, I just finished a long day at work with challenges that have tried to follow me home. My wife, Jennifer, has been in rehearsals for a play all week, and we just had enough time to briefly eat dinner together before she had to run out the door.

 

(Dinner was actually pretty awesome -- Italian sausages with mashed potatoes and cheese sauce. I am stuffed... I need to remind Jennifer when she gets home how thankful I am for her.)

 

I just cleaned up the kitchen and put on Clifford, The Big Red Dog for Josh and Lily (our little ones) to watch. Now it's time to fold a load of towels Jennifer asked me to tackle, and then it will be time to get the kids cleaned up and in bed.

 

So here I am: I'm still thinking about work stuff; I feel like a nap from all the sausage I ate; I've got a load of clothes to fold and a couple of kiddos to parent. And on top of all that, I haven't written a blog in weeks, and I told myself I'd do it today...

 

But I just DON'T feel motivated!!!

 

And that's why I'm laughing to myself.

 

You see, I'm going to prove to myself RIGHT NOW that my lack of motivation does not have the power to stop me from reaching my goals. I'm going to write an article you'll enjoy reading and that will be helpful to you even though 10 minutes ago I didn't even feel like doing it!

 

That's the secret -- your lack of motivation doesn't have the power to stop you from reaching your goals.

 

Your lack of motivation doesn't have the power to stop you from reaching your goals.

 

I'm going to give you three quick motivational hacks to help you overcome your feelings (or lack thereof) and reach your goal.

 

1.  Your feelings change faster than reality.

 

I know you know this, but let me remind you that just because you feel a certain way, doesn't mean whatever you're feeling is true.

 

Let's be extreme. Ever feel suicidal? I have. What goes through your mind? For me, it's something like: "There's too much pressure in this life, and it would be easier to be gone."

 

But then just a few hours later (sometimes just minutes), my thoughts have changed to something like, "Man, that was an awesome quart of Breyer's black cherry ice cream. Life is good."

 

What changed (other than the contents of my stomach)?

 

My FEELINGS...

 

Stop following your feelings. Otherwise, you'll likely be going in circles. Feelings are fickle, but you don't have to be.

 

Feelings are fickle, but you don't have to be.

 

And I'll be right back - it's time to put the kids in the tub...

 

OK, I'm back. Let's review that first motivational hack - remember your feelings don't always reflect an accurate reality.

 

But what about the times when they do?

 

2.  Your attitude can trump your challenging circumstances.

 

This motivational hack is for those times when your feelings actually ARE an accurate reflection of the circumstances.

 

Sometimes life is simply hard. Sometimes it's hard because of bad choices you've made. Sometimes it's hard from the choices others have made and are now hurting you. And sometimes life is just hard.

 

I remember when I was 18 years old and found out my girlfriend was pregnant, I felt like my life just got really complicated really fast.

 

And it had.

 

Fortunately, I came to the realization that I had the ability to choose my perspective.

 

I could be angry at myself, my girlfriend, God, whomever, and start focusing on how my life would be limited by this new development, or I could embrace the opportunity I'd been given to be a dad: a privilege some men never get.

 

I chose to jump full force into this new life of being a dad, and I gotta say that child was and is (she'll be 16 this year) one of the greatest gifts I've ever received. 

 

But what do you do when you just can't seem to snap out of a downer attitude?

 

3.  Your faith can anchor your attitude.

 

This one is HUGE for me because there have been many times my feelings are down; my circumstances look bleak; and my attitude just won't come around no matter how hard I try to psych myself into it.

 

That's when I need to know there's something bigger than me.

 

And I'll be right back to tell you about it. I have to fold that load of clothes and get the kids out of the tub and in bed.

 

And I'm back. The clothes are folded; the story book has been read; and the kids are in bed!

 

It's a comfort to me to know I don't have to be strong enough to get through all the ups and downs of this life; that the end result is not contingent solely on how well I perform; that even when I feel abandoned, I'm never alone.

 

Have you ever felt like you've royally messed up, and there's no way to fix it?

 

I have, and that's where my faith in Jesus Christ has anchored me where all the positive thinking in the world could not.

 

Scriptures like Hebrews 13:5-6 ring in my ears:

 

"For God has said, 'I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.' So we can say with confidence, 'The Lord is my helper, so I will have no fear.'"

 

Because of my faith I have an anchor to hold onto even when all else fails me.

 

Because of my faith I have an anchor to hold onto even when all else fails me.

 

And that's why when the feeling of "I just DON'T feel motivated!" comes, I can laugh, knowing that regardless of my feelings or even a jaded attitude, I can still get the job done because feelings don't have the power to stop me from reaching my goals.

 

What do you do to get passed those "blah" moments of feeling unmotivated? Let me know by leaving a comment below.

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